Anonymous asked: Dear Girlvert,
I’m a good-looking, funny guy who has no problem finding women to sleep with. Lately though, it has been pointed out by my friends that I always take over the conversation and dominate the room while in a public setting. I’ve taken a look at this and have tried to not do that, and I instantly feel ugly and worthless. I see guys who aren’t good-looking with nothing really interesting to say and they somehow get girls and seem to be happier and more calm than me. What gives? What am I missing? Why am I overcompensating and working so hard to achieve the results I see others achieve with ease? Low self-esteem? Please advise.
—Phil
Phil,
Sometimes a person has to get gnarly…then the alcohol cooks off, smoke clears, and the Lap-Band melts away that last hundred. Why would anyone take Hydroxycut if there was no “before” pic? You are just being yourself, not trying to dominate. It’s really not your fault if other guys feel threatened. Just ignore the complaints but try not to be a total asshole. Fuck most of what everyone else says. It’s not healthy to censor yourself too much.
Do you want to play the “calm happy” guy? No! You don’t respect him. So don’t think that the girl you want to fall for you would be satisfied with that. You are crazy. He is stationary. If you ever feel yourself being consumed with envy, just try to talk to him. It will make you feel better about yourself. Then take that confidence and reinvest it into ONE girl, not a roomful. You don’t have low self-esteem. Maybe a little ADHD.
xoxo Ori
